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In our section "Onlife Online", we often receive questions from aspirants, who are not satisfied with their present lives, who are trying to find a meaning in their lives, a deeper reason for why things happen as they do, and who are searching for a light to guide them in their actions.

Each month we take a question of this nature and present an answer based on the writings of Sri Aurobindo and the Mother, with the belief that this could be of help to a larger number of persons. We welcome further comments on making our endeavour beneficial to all.

                              Question of the Month                     Archive
June 2002

When somebody has an ill-will against a person,
how does this will act upon that person?


We often find that some people have an ill-will against us. We feel that this may affect us in some way but we wonder whether this is true or simply our imagination. We would also like to know whether we can do something to avoid the harmful effects of this ill-will.

Similarly there are situations where we feel hurt or angry and we react by having an ill-will or wishing that something unhappy should befall the person whom we believe to be the cause of our hurt. We do not realise that our thoughts could have a harmful effect and we should be very careful with what we think.

We present here a question which was asked to the Mother on the effects of ill-will and the Mother's direct and revealing answer.

Question:When somebody has an ill-will against a person, how does this will act upon that person?

Through a formation, a mental formation. When somebody is very ill-willed and wants to harm you, his will is expressed more or less; at times he does not dare to acknowledge this to himself for he would feel ashamed, but that may come spontaneously. Or else, it may be as with malicious people, something shut up very deep in the consciousness, all the time there, like that, stirring up their spite; and then there are violent people who wish that a calamity may befall those who have caused them some so-called harm or have displeased them for some reason or other… Anyway, that is it, it belongs to the field of formation; and it is so strong that if you just pass by someone who has a manifest ill-will, you may suddenly feel very uneasy.

How to handle Ill-will

Now, if you have a little knowledge and consciousness, you can become aware of the reason, and then, when one realises the reason, there is only one thing to do, just this (gesture), as one brushes off a fly. Flies are very troublesome and come back again and again; and evil formations, take care!, have the same habit as flies. You brush flies away, they return, you brush them away again, again they return. They think it is a game. Have you never remarked, flies take this as a game? truly, even as they are sent away, they return. Only, if at a particular moment you become angry, you get into a temper and do this (gesture), even if you do not touch it, the fly will not come back. It feels it. Try, you will see.

A Bad Thought is a Bad Act

But a bad thought is a bad act. There are people who do not know it, but truly a bad thought is a bad act and if one thinks and wishes harm to someone, well, one is responsible for the misfortunes that come upon him just as much as though one had acted. But the unfortunate thing is that this is not recognised and that never does one intervene in the bad thoughts of people… There are even people who take great pleasure in inciting the bad thoughts of others. I have known such people (unfortunately far too many), when they have something unpleasant to say to somebody, they never miss the opportunity of telling him: "You know, somebody said that about you", and also: "You know, that other person said this about you." And thus they create as much harm as they think of. And this they do at times simply through stupidity, most often through vanity, in order to show off that they know something. But at bottom, in the consciousness, there is what is called mischief-making - something that enjoys creating disorder, misunderstandings, disputes among people, unpleasant situations, and feels at ease amidst these. There are many people with a very sharp tongue. It is called in French "une langue de vipere", a viperish tongue. This is their great amusement. And they do much, much, much harm. But even without speaking, if one has a strong thought and thinks ill of people, one does a bad deed.

- The Mother

 

 

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